Blessings friends! Thank you for all the comments, messages, and prayers regarding my fellow co-workers. It has been a while since I last wrote the blog "Love Hurts" so I wanted to give you an update.
Shay, the one with the children and no drivers license, quit. We still talk at times and he told me he has lost his kids to their mothers. Even though one mother had just been released from jail, she still got custody. Shay also still doesn't have a drivers license. Last we talked he didn't have a job either. I hope you will keep him in your prayers.
Matt and I don't talk anymore. Last time we talked was a few weeks ago and he admitted he hoped by dating a woman with a child that'd make him settle down. Hmm...I don't think it works that way. I still care for him and miss out talks terribly. I'm slowly learning to let it go. I pray for him all the time. I know God is in control. It's just hard sometimes because I'd like to be friends with him.
One of my co-workers transferred to another store so I don't hear as much unprofessional talk as I did. That's good.
My confidence is shattered when it comes to men. I have confidence in God in everything. I just don't have confidence in me. I'm reading Bible verses and know God's plan for me is perfect. In His eyes I'm special and loved. God's opinion of me matters more than anybody's on earth, so I bow at His feet in wonder of His love for me. It's amazing!
Hi friends! Thanks for all the ratings, comments, and messages. I pray for you daily and hope God is blessing you with His love. The last time I wrote I had just started a new job and was in the process of looking for another one. Well, that was in January. Now it's May and I'm still working at Bi-Lo. It's been an interesting test. I work with women. That's not always a bad thing, but I get along well with men because of my love of sports. Also, I have 2 brothers and no sisters. lol Anyway, getting along with women day in and day out is sometimes a challenge. I have had to tell them I do not care to hear about their sex lives or anything of that sort. It's amazing, to me, how open women are in sharing intimate details to anyone who will listen. To me, that's personal and shouldn't be shared. Telling someone, or even showing someone, a private picture of a man...well -- I still can't believe it. Maybe I'm naive. What I have learned is that men are far more respectful towards women than we are towards each other. Women gossip, complain, and talk about anything and everything. Men, at least, are far less likely to share intimate details with a woman. I guess that's why it's easier for me to befriend a man than a woman. I know I won't hear that nonsense when talking with a man. lol This is probably not true for everybody. It's just true for me and my current situation.
Now for a prayer request or two. I have befriended a man that is in need of prayer. His name is Matt. He's lost both of his parents. His grandmother is dying. He has a brother who is not the best influence. He likes the girls. Worst, he has a drinking problem. He's a great guy who is in a lot of pain. I adore him. I ache for him. I listen to him. I consistently want to hug him. Jesus is the answer. Not girls or alcohol. I hope you'll pray for him and his brother.
Another friend has 2 children. He lost his drivers license. He also has a drinking problem that he is trying to get control of. His name is Shay. He's aware of his problems, but unaware of the role he has played in them. He's also at a loss on how to fix them. He needs to look in the mirror and realize God loves him, forgives him, etc.
Thank you for your prayers, love, support and friendship!
A teenage girl about 17 had gone to visit some friends one evening and time passed quickly as each shared their various experiences of the past year.
She ended up staying longer than planned, and had to walk home alone. She wasn't afraid because it was a small town and she lived only a few blocks away.
As she walked along under the tall elm trees, Diane asked God to keep her safe from harm and danger.
When she reached the alley, which was a short cut to her house, she decided to take it.
However, halfway down the alley she noticed a man standing at the end as though he were waiting for her.
She became uneasy and began to pray, asking for God's protection.
Instantly a comforting feeling of quietness and security wrapped round her, she felt as though someone was walking with her.
When she reached the end of the alley, she walked right past the man and arrived home safely.
The following day, she read in the newspaper that a young girl had been raped in the same alley just twenty minutes after she had been there.
Feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy and the fact that it could have been her, she began to weep.
Thanking the Lord for her safety and to help this young woman, she decided to go to the police station.
She felt she could recognize the man, so she told them her story.
The police asked her if she would be willing to look at a lineup to see if she could identify him.
She agreed and immediately pointed out the man she had seen in the alley the night before.
When the man was told he had been identified, he immediately broke down and confessed.
The officer thanked Diane for her bravery and asked if there was anything they could do for her.
She asked if they would ask the man one question.
Diane was curious as to why he had not attacked her.
When the policeman asked him, he answered, "Because she wasn't alone. She had two tall men walking on either side of her."
Amazingly, whether you believe or not, you're never alone. Did you know that 98% of teenagers will not stand up for God?
Re post this as Love vs. Sex if you truly believe in God..,
PS: God is always there in your heart and loves you no matter what.....and if you stand up 4 him he will stand up for you.
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Thank you Joyful for sharing this. I got it out of her blog. You are welcome to copy and paste into your own blog or e-mail to anyone; everyone.
Through a Rapist's eyes (Not a Joke) This is important information for females of ALL ages .
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to ladies, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. Men can send to others and get the information out to more this way. This information is too important this day and time and we don't want to miss someone. Please pass it along A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts: 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered. 4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms. 6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.... So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look him in the face and ask him a question , like 'What time is it?' or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen his face and could identify him in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell, ' I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY!' and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat him with strength but you can by outsmarting him. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY, VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN ... I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course, the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble. 1 Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! 2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you.....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS!The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5 .. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana. I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.
"Nothing is hopeless, we must hope for everything." - Madeleine L'Engle
"Heavenly Father, we come before thee, knee bent and body bowed, in the humblest way that we know how." - Denzel Washington's favorite prayer
"We all move on the fringes of eternity and are sometimes granted vistas through the fabric of illusion." - Ansel Adams
"We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey." - Kenji Miyazawa
"We must alter our lives in order to alter our hearts, for it is impossible to live one way and pray another." - William Law
"God does not exist just to make our lives better; we exist so that we can learn to love and worship Him in spirit and in truth." - Sheila Walsh
"If a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it." - Edgar Watson Howe
"When people realize they can have good close nonsexual relationships with the opposite sex, they may get away from this notion that any adult relationship between the sexes has to end in bed. That's only true in soap operas." - Peter Sheras
"A friend you have to buy won't be worth what you pay for him." - George D. Prentice
"The surest way to lose a friend is to tell him something for his own good." - Sid Ascher
"Never injure a friend, even in jest." - Cicero
"Love doesn't require technical training. It isn't qualified by a degree or limited by a job descr i ption. Anyone can demonstrate love to anyone else, and since God comforts us in all our troubles, is it asking too much to comfort others in any trouble?" - Joni Eareckson Tada
"1 Thess. 5:16-18 Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." 35 years old Female Greenville, SC
